.::Story I've learnt::.

I have a friend named Alisa. She was not a *good* gal last time as her bf (now EX), used to influence her to do lots of things, rave which definitely used drugs, alcohols and that kinda thing. She was cool when only she was sober. I blamed myself for not being a good friend then, but hey! I told Alisa that I didn't like Jeff that much as he influenced her to do bad things to her health and not being a better muslim. I pray for her happiness...and...

A year later or less, Alisa found Amin who taught her to be a better gal, in loads of *hikmah* (or subtle) way. He protected her from harming herself with indulging in more alcoholic drinks and drugs and wild parties. He taught her to be a good muslim. Alisa found herself a saviour and her true love. It all started with an innocent chat online.

Amin to me represented a mature, truthful guy who walked the talk. He represented a man (who sadly in extinction nowadays) who protected his beloved in any way. He taught his woman to be better and not towards becoming a jahiliyah. They read each other's mind and they loved each other. They worked together as a couple and made it happen. They accepted each other's flaws and thrived on each other's strengths. That was how people invented the word "My Other Half" cos they complement each other. Not just lovey dovey, wasting time with each other's stuff, but they were working towards a marriage. I pray for their happiness...

I saw how Alisa transformed...I'm happy for her and Amin. The only thing is, Amin's already married with kids. This news came later to Alisa and she was dumbfounded at first. Jeff, who taught he was happy for Alisa told Alisa's parents about Amin and things turned ugly. Amin already forwarded his true intention to Alisa, to take her as his second wife. Meanwhile, Amin's wife, has already read the tell tales of her husband, and said that she could accept whatever consequences that may happen. Now, it's up to convincing Alisa's parents to accept Amin. Bear in mind that Alisa's parents doesn't know anything about Alisa "used to be" skin. This will be a great challenge to both Alisa and Amin.

Now, most of you out there who don't believe in this kinda story usually reject this first hand. To me, it happened to most of my friends and in my family. So, the only success factor comes to how smart the husband is. If he's a true believer, he'll act accordingly and be truthful to both parties. Husband plays the crucial part to bring harmony in his family as he is the khalif, The Man who Leads. Man who is a mere follower or afraid of his wife (or family or weak to his surroundings) usually succumbs to more destructions, heartaches and broken marriages. I believe, deep in my heart that Amin can do justice to my friend, Alisa, his wife and kids. I met Amin and from his transparent facts and the way Alisa told me, I believe he can. They got my consent.

The MAIN factor is how honest and transparent a guy can be. Deleting that gray areas help to improve in one's relationship especially by earning that trust. Trust is not cheap and a gal can't simply trust a man based on his talks alone. They become smarter...the facts always come back to them, in any means, even how hard a man tries to hide it from surfacing.

So guys, DON'T EVER LIE or hide from the truth. It hurts, yes, but at least we learn to accept one another, trust each other and love you more (depends on how the facts get to them). After all, it's you whom we love, not some superficial man who looked macho and superior (sometimes they portray themselves as being a rich man bladibla just to lure the bait<---if he's into bad intention).

For this I've learned that when a man loves a woman, he will do what ever it takes to make her his legal other half...his sparring partner, his best friend cum lover, his kids' mother...He won't simply talk, but he acts and follows through. He really works toward achieving their goal.

Alisa is a lucky girl.

That's how I see Amin and Alisa now.

For now, I don't wanna wish to know if there's anybody like Amin to me...

I just live my day like it is now, and pray that God will take my life away. I had enough of bullshits and heartaches. I just want God to forgive me...