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kih kih kih...

macam kelakar je bunyik tajuk tuh kan? For some reasons (READ: obviously la) I guess I have to ponder on this issue more seriously, though...

Kenapa masa kita remaja senang je nak carik cinta? I mean, you don't have to fall in love to find one. it's confusing, I know...but take for example my sister. She just broke off with: let's say 2 month's relationship with a bloke only to be *in love* with another after hmm..a month? They just say that they want to know you more...yadda yadda...likes you a lot. then taddaa! you're hitched!

hmm...wonder why during my adult years, it's hard to work that way? Maybe the feeling of insecurities, rejections, excess baggages hell! it can be a mountain full of excuses, but does one need to have reason to fall in love? Thing is, in my era now, hanky panky was so passe and so yesterday.

A friend told me that a guy approached her, ready for a marriage proposal. They just knew each other tru the net. Being adult, and way past our gullible behavior, one must put another defensive mode on approaching things like this.

What if, love is so pure? You don't care less of what other's might think or say. You want to marry someone purely because of AlLah. I don't know....but tru experiences, I don't think marrying someone you hardly know is wise nowadays. I'm not saying that I've married before! For God sake...it's just that well, let's just say I've been there, done that, ok? Take my word for it. Get to know a lil bit of his background first, his family, hmm in my case, whether he performs his duty as a Muslim really well. A lil background investigation won't hurt as long as you keep mum about it and see whether he's lying or speaking the truth. Hmm..that's a suggestion innit? If he's lying then, say buh-bye sucker!

It's hard to live in a hyper modern, cosmopolitan city without being connected to the net. There's so many things to see, to have, to look, to buy, to EAT (check out Oza's entry on this is the only factor that unites us Malaysian). Heck! I was trapped in a traffic jam nearing one popular shopping complex just because people are so kiasu to buy CHEAP/ DISCOUNTED - so called *wanted* stuff (Members' One Day Special) when they clearly knew that the MegaSale was just over for a week! So I may add, the other factor which unites Malaysians is SHOPPING!

For us adult, there's a lot of things to put into account before you put yourself in a relationship. Like, whether we're financially stable, whether we can have TIME, career's first, and that you're not ready for one (Lame, huh?). We won't be ready for anything if one does not set her/his mind to do things. Why must Love be a subset to all of these excuses but not as the mainframe? Love for me is the catalyst to do lotsa things, brighten up my day, motivate me to work, motivate me to juggle and prioritize, love is a drive towards *everything* (",)

Hey! For me, the only thing lacking is the significant other. So you would like to ask whether I'm searching for one? YES! I am. I'm not searching for a knight of shining armour nor a Mr. Right. I just want to accept somebody as he is so he can accept me as what I am.

MN queried me on what kinda man I'd like to have as hubby. I said, one who never leaves his solat. Then she said, "well, lookit who's talking..." Hey! what does that mean? " Do you perform your solat 5 times a day?" (READ: if you wanna find a guy with that quality, you must mirror yourself first, so kau tak layak and jangan berangan...) My ibadah is between me and AlLah, not for others to judge, I said.

BTW, I sought solace tru Taro. Simply she said," Wamaakaru, wamakarAlLah wallahu khairul maakirinn" [translation: man plans, Allah plans, but Allah's plan works best]. Just look at Farah, the singer of Bagaikan Puteri, She's married to an Ustaz and AlhamduLiLlah towards a better muslim.

Gal like me needs a guy who can leads, not bosses me around. eheheh...for that May AlLah grants my wish, aminnnnnnn.