+..Another Good Reason to Stay Unmarried..+

Read the news yet?

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It caught my eyes almost immediately when I scanned The Star today. It was on the front page under Mahathir to meet George Soros title. Hehehe...pretty ironic, eh?

Can you believe it that there were more divorces compared to marriages now? And that our good people in the Dewan Rakyat argued that people are facing greater challenges from various aspects due to hectic lifestyle as well as financial constraints?

Bah!

I was thinking of that (singlehood) even before I read the news. All the way from my humble house to the office...all the way, man...I revisited my life, a little arrangement here and there...all I need to do is to be free from debts. It haunts me. But I never thought of having to settle down for the sake of getting married. Nope. What for? It needs two to tango, a team. But I'm still not convinced. Just because of the age, you want to rush to get married? Because you want offspring, right? So issit right to marry for that reason? For me, I beg to differ.

Don't the good people in Dewan Rakyat know the different of the then marriages and the now?

Women like moi now are TOTALLY independent from men these days. We survive because we work, we are far educated than the women in the 40s, 50s and 60s. We are more career minded but mind you, deep inside we still want to have our own little family. We require love and attention, thats all. Money, meanwhile is a plus point. We need to be pampered, even the littlest gesture that you (Men out there) would do could make us happy. Not some mega-gala whatever (to me at least).

Whats the use of marrying if you end up divorcing? Whats the use of marrying if the other party makes you suffer mentally or physically? Whats the use of marrying if you argue on small things that can be resolved but the ego in you enhances every bits and pixel and make a bomb out of it? Especially when it involves money. Who to pay the rent / mortgage, who to pay the bills, who to buy the groceries, who to pay the maid, will there be a joint effort towards establishing your kids' fund? These kinda stuff.

Traditional families do rely on The Man to be the sole breadwinner. He will work every bones and muscles to make ends meet. The Woman will be the caretaker of their children, do the chores and take care of The Man.

Unlike Modern Families, both Man and Woman work their asses to fit their lifestyle. Big cars, big houses, children (now restricted to only one or two), credit cards, other debts, the maid(s) and other bills. They work up to 12 or more hours per day for this. Sometimes The Woman will continue to do the chores and take care of the children (hubby is a child too sometimes). This is the extra thing Woman does albeit having to help The Man pays the bill.

Children whine they lack love and attention, but hey, parents do give them money. Children eat at McDonald's, play the Xbox, go to tuition etc. So where are their parents when they needed them the most?

The Man lacks the Woman's tender loving care, her "air tangan" or her cooking. They might not communicate the traditional way, they use SMS/ Email/ 3G. Where has all that caresses and warm kisses and the good ol hugs on the couch while watching TV?

These things make me rethink of getting married. I don't want to marry if these were to happen to me. I don't want to argue every month talking about bill payments/ absence of that hubby cum father figure at home. Even though I really, really love to have children of my own, I fret to think of neglecting them if all the above modern family transpires. So don't marry and don't have children. Even Jojo the cat at home requires love and attention, I think I'll stick to having cats instead. Cats are loyal, they don't argue, they even appreciate what we do and it doesn't require high maintenance so much.

Its not easy. Marriage is a big responsibility. Its not about having HALAL sex alone. Its about long-term commitment. Yeah you can see how nice some weddings were, all that glitters, all that colours and music. I confess, I do envy people who marries. I avoid going to wedding ceremonies because of people who ask unnecessary questions. I hate day dreaming. I don't want to make myself full of wrinkly face because I'm still not married.

Whoohoo!

To celebrate me being unmarried at the Now Age, I've bought myself a good wrist watch and a spanking new phone (eheh still loyal to Samsung). Keep up my slimming and facial care regime, and towards zero debts. Kids? Maybe one day I might adopt a girl. Husband? Err..after all I've done, can you re-phrase whats a Husband's Role again?