.:The Post E-day:.

Wahalauweh!

I'm so knackered left and right after Dilot's E-day. To avoid people from asking that NOGO questions, I made myself busy running in and out, downstairs and up. I called and dedicated myself to be The Runner. Lucky Cik Edah was there to head the kitchen affairs. Mama gave her 120% responsibility to do what she deemed fit, and I was the interface between her and Mama and all else. The Interconnections. The Operating System. Muahahah! What an analogy!

Well, nearly everybody saw me as being busy. So the honour of that NOGO questions, unfortunately (or err hooray for moi) went to Along Nora. My cousin who happened to be the same age as Dilot. She kept questioning why her out of all people. Well, that was because she was vulnerable to that NOGO questions by lepaking with the makciks. Uhuhuhu...So lucky me!

There were some makciks that pestered me with that NOGO questions eventho, sadly they knew i HATE them asking that. I can even HATE THEM for why oh why there are being so INSENSITIVE typical MALAY Makcik?

"Kalau makcik/ pakcik/ nek/ tok ? (fill in the blanks) ada calon yang sesuai, kenalkan lah. Kalau ada jodoh, insyaAllah adalah...janganlah dok tanya bila lagi bila lagi, tapi takde action apa-apa. Sekadar tanya for the sake of statistik RAMAI ORG MELAYU akan bertanya begini di majlis perkahwinan pada orang-orang bujang, takperlah...simpanlah. terima kasih." <----ada yg saja direka utk menyedapkan hati.I guess you know wic part, kan?

That makcik, believe me, laughed as if she has been slapped in the face. When will these type of people changed? Why must they be so damn typical, so damn predictable and so damn bo-ooo-ring? The question are so 1950s, that it was no longer fashionable, in fact a blasphemy. Move on! We are already in a new century for faksek!

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On other beautiful, wonderful note:-

My soon to be bro-in-law is a bubbly funny person. So ngam soi with Dilot and he became adapted so fast to our family that sukati je nak buat kelakar hindustan (dok kasi bunga ros to Dilot in front of my DAD, with that romantic gesture la kunun ehehe). My parents' soon to be besan are also happy funny people. Its so good that they can release the tension and stress for the E-day! I think I can ngam with Mak Teh (awat hang sughuh Anas pi beli cincin haluih no? tok nampokk laaaa...)

They came the next day for Nasi Lemak Sambal Sotong + Udang Breakfast get-together and furthering the ukhuwwah. I've shown the hindustani drama that happened the day before thru the handycam. Alhamdulillah...both families ngam with each other...I like!

Though by traditional 1950s standard, we had few glitches - almaklum, we are not that Mengikut Adat kinda people. That happened only to the non-courting, not-knowing who's who brides-to-be...Like hello? Dilot already know who is Anas Iswari and the whole clan and vice-versa. As if, you really have to re-live that 1950s moment (and Dilot to be behind that kain langsir / kitchen door to eavesdrop and smile gedikly to the rombongan meminang/ act demurely like gadis kampung ulu bendol kinda manner. Can't we just be practical? Adat is one thing, but The MOST Important is the Islamic way of handling khitbah (engagement lah) or meminang. Click here

Kan ke Islam itu syumul dan mudah? Kenapelah people want to include all the non-necessities? Menyusahkan, menambahkan azab to the one who's going to be engaged/ married? And why must ALL relatives (tok nek, mak tam, pak teh, blabla) be included for The Decision-making? Like the hantaran, (RM15,555,55<---mcm artis2 pulak, lainler kalau dia Datok Kaya) the events, the invitees..(This is not from my family's side, alhamdulillah). Sometimes people even go to the extreme like Sutun's family. They made it clear that they want Sutun's other half to be one of *their kind*...from the royalties as well...Hmmm..memang sampai ke umur 40 baru minah tu dapat kahwin. Itupun becos she chose to marry the *commoner* - a married 50 something man.

"Dalam Islam soal mulia atau tidak sesuatu keturunan bukan terletak pada tingginya sesuatu gelaran. Sabda Rasulullah tentang tip2 memilih pasangan dan betapa Allah melihat tingginya darjat sesuatu kaum, atau lebih spesifik lagi, seorang individu pada amalan dan taqwanya. Kiter pegang kot tu sudah. Toksah la nak overexxegerate yang keturunan A lebih mulia dari keturunan B, keturunan A selagi dok ada kat muka bumi ni tak jadi nak kiamat.... aduh la... takut biler kiter dok leka sangat claim itu dan ini, dalam tak sedar kiter dah mensyirikkan Allah... Na'uzubillah"<---memetik kata-kata seorang manusia blogger

Come on, this is a marriage pre-license. This is not a real thing, but to *book* a woman for a hand of marriage. Through this pre-license, other male muslims cannot meminang the same girl. Unless they have broken that pre-license agreement. Why must you put unnecessary costs? Also, the Langkah Bendul Adat for me is utter non-sense. Aku redha that my jodoh is still out there waiting to pounce anytime. Aku redha Dilot got hitched first. Aku redha Effi also want to settle down (at last) in 24 months time.

I simply said No Langkah Bendul Adat to Dad. I don't need that sepersalinan gift from Dilot n Anas. But maybe to *please* some old relatives, this adat is there for me. Bah! Tak mo ah sepersalinan bagai. Mintak benda yg praktikal. Like cash? Ahahaha...Bah!

I can't understand one that glorifies an engagement. Its impractical. Why don't you channel all the extra energy to focus on The Wedding? Uhuhu...luckyler bukan majlis tunang aku. If not, I'll skip all the adat makdat, all the pantun mantun, all the unnecessary events. Just straight to the Ampang Point Blank, cincin. Set the date of marriage. Of course this involves both families to be lah kan? Senang. Praktikal. Telus. Clear!

Tapi masa Dilot punya majlis ada satu benda yang aku betul2 suka. The Tazkirah by Ustaz Kautsar. The tazkirah are so timely, to remind the lovebirds that during khitbah is not a time for them to be like that of hubby n wifey thingy. NOT YET. So, from this tazkirah, I re-learned and benefited ALL of us ( I guess mostly ler, mana yg tak berfaedah tu up to the person attended ler kan?)

So there. I'm happy that Dilot finally found someone that bagai buah pelam dibelah dua..sebab dowa-dowa comeiii...sama debab, tapi comeiii...tak sabo tunggu depa nikah and produce comeii nieces and nephews for us. I pray for their happiness and murah rezeki, insyaAllah..